J is for Jealousy

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Day 10 of the A-Z Blogger Challenge
J is for Jealousy

I rarely get jealous, but I’d be lying if I said I didn’t have jealous moments from time to time. Jealousy is so ugly and destructive! It results in anger, hatred, manipulation, and in some cases, violence. The times I find myself getting jealous, I am amazed at how quickly I can dislike someone… even if I don’t know them. When I let jealousy stick around for a bit, it creates in ME someone I don’t like.

For me, it helps to take a step back and be honest with myself about why I might be jealous. Is it because I’m comparing myself to that other person? Is it because someone has something I just can’t have? Is it because I feel insecure and inadequate? Once I know what is making me feel jealous, I try to reason with myself and work my way out of my funk. Sometimes it helps to get to know the person I’m jealous of because I usually find out a couple things– first of all, what I think I’m jealous about is really nothing worth being jealous about. Secondly, I often find that I actually like the person.

There are a lot of great quotes about jealousy. Here are some of them:

  • “The jealous are troublesome to others, but a torment to themselves.” ~ William Penn
  • “Like hatred, jealousy is forbidden by the laws of life because it is essentially destructive.” ~ Alexis Carrel
  • “Jealousy is all the fun you think they had.”~ Erica Jong
  • “You can be the moon and still be jealous of the stars.”~ Gary Allen

Jealousy has been around since the beginning of time.  Where there are people, jealousy will exist. I just hope that as I live and grow, I will see less of it in myself.